Do you ever think about your previous relationships or times when you liked someone? Maybe you were very close and had big plans for the future together, but now you find yourself alone or with a completely different person. You may sometimes think, "What if?.." or not remember about the past relationships at all. You may wonder what brought you together in the first place, and now that once special person is just somebody that you used to know. Truth is, feelings come and go. People change. Everything changes. They say, "Out of sight, out of mind." Why does it happen, then?
Time heals for sure. If you had a painful breakup, you would be better off if you hid all the pictures from the once happy time. Do not follow him or her on Facebook, either. It won't help. The quicker you get rid of the constant reminders of your past, the quicker you will be able to move on to the future. But does it mean that if you are in a long-distance relationship, you are bound to forget about each other and go your separate ways? Not necessarily, but it takes time and determination to stay close when you are apart.
Military families have to deal with separation all the time, from short one-week training sessions to year-long (or longer) deployments. Some families do fall apart due to this, but I want to believe that ours is different. The Lord brought us together for a reason, and He will help us go through all the difficult times. Divorce is definitely not an option, so we will just have to find ways to stay close while my husband leaves for his deployment.
When we are at work and something happens, we text each other to make sure we are included in each other's lives. Little things that happen to us during the day are fun to discuss in the evening. When my husband is away for a short time for training within the U.S., we continue texting each other and talk on the phone or Skype in the evenings. When he will be deployed, I will be writing emails and real snail mail letters to let him know that he is still a big part of my life. I will be sending my husband care packages to show my love and that I still care about him. Without communication, we will fall apart, and that is not why we married. I do not want him to return in nine months and find a strange person in place of his wife. We both will grow and change during these months, but we will make sure we grow and change together.