Sunday, May 13, 2012

How to Keep the Love Fire Burning

Yesterday, I saw a movie, The Lucky One. It was fairly well-done and had several good themes, but the one I want to write about today is love. More precisely, about the time when love first begins. It was involving to see how love between the two main characters first appeared and then grew stronger. Do you remember the feelings you experienced when you just started dating your significant other? How thrilled you were to see him or her? How nervous, anxious, and excited you were? The sweetest and the warmest feeling pouring all over your body the moment your lips touched... How upset you were to let go of each other, and how it took an hour to say good-bye on the front porch. Butterflies were tingling ever so sweetly in your stomach at every thought of your beloved. Those days were filled with joy, and... they are now in the past.

When I saw the growing love of Beth and Logan in the movie, it brought the sweet memories of the first days of our love to me. It is a little sad that those days are gone. However, I understand that love constantly grows and changes, just as we do. We cannot always be kids, and so can't love always stay at that first young stage. I remember myself at 16, but I am soooo glad I am older now! Today, I am wiser and more mature. I definitely have more taste and take better care of myself. Time has brought me knowledge and experience, and the same happens to love as it matures: it only gets better.

Today, I trust my husband so much more than in those first days when we just met. The fact that he is my husband and not a boyfriend anymore speaks loudly: I feel secure with him and know and love him enough to want to spend the rest of my life with him. Growing together in love is a beautiful thing. You really need to get to know your partner in order to commit your whole life to the relationship.

We have been married for almost two years, yet we always hear from other people congratulations on our recent wedding. We really do look like newlyweds. We always hold hands and look at each other with love. Is it easy to do? Most of the time, yes. I know that many will say that we should wait until we have kids, and jobs, and school meetings, and a thousand of other things to do, all at the same time. I do strongly believe, however, that it is possible to keep the fire burning between you two.

Love is not a feeling. It is a choice we make every day with our spouses. We may not always like each other, but we surely do love each other always. To love is...

- To make your spouse a priority. Always. Before your kids, your parents, and your job. You will live all your life with your spouse. You will change jobs, move away from your parents, and let your kids go off to college. Guess who will stay behind with you?

- To show your respect and love every day. Make him lunch, go to bed at the same time, pray together. Show that you think of your spouse and take his or her interests into consideration.

- Hold hands and do romantic things. We write cute messages to each other on the napkins and hide them in each other lunch bags. When David is gone for training, I write for him every day in our Love Story diary. He makes the bed while I am preparing for work in the morning and makes me breakfast. Well, and dinner, too, when he gets home from work first. We realize that we are in this together, and we are trying to make life more comfortable for each other.

Yes, those butterflies and the exciting sensory acuity may be in the past, but instead, now we have a steady and strong love fire in our hearts. As Brad Paisley said in his song, "And I thought I loved you then..." Today, I love my husband so much more than yesterday.


  1. Love this post! Except I can't ever go to bed when Rob does...he sleeps too much! :)

    1. Thank you, Kirsten! I totally understand! You are too busy to go to bed early :) I am sure you have other ways to let each other know how in love you are!