Sunday, May 6, 2012

Deployment Plan

I am a huge planner. I like to plan far, far ahead, and I don't think it is necessarily a bad thing. I like knowing what I am going to cook this week, so that I can get the groceries I need. I would also like to know the gender of our future kids, so that I can paint nurseries blue or pink and not get green or yellow onesies at the baby showers. Therefore, it is only logical to create a deployment plan to help us carry through and to prepare for the separation reality the best we can. 

Today we went to our favorite coffee place and had a conversation about our deployment plan. Since I will have to manage our household by myself, I need to know my husband's thoughts on how I will perform his role. Some of the areas that we discussed were:

Budget: Yes, we actually do have a budget! It must have something to do with the fact that I am an accountant. During David's last deployment, I lived with my parents. Since we did not have to pay rent, I went on a shopping spree. FYI: shopping is a great pastime for those dealing with separation! We decided that I will continue living within our means. 

Legal Documents: It is a good idea to get a power of attorney from your husband. It will come in handy in case you need to do something that requires his physical presence. My example: if you receive a check that is written for both of you, you will not be able to cash or deposit it without the power of attorney. 

Home and Car Maintenance: Since we rent an apartment, our rental company will deal with all the maintenance problems. Leaving your car on the ground for many months is a bad idea. The tires are bound to be dead by the time you come home. That is what happened to both of our cars. This time, we are planning to lift up David's car with the car jacks. 

Support Groups: A very, very important part of your time alone. As I wrote before, I am intending to make new friends. Plus, my co-workers have promised to take care of me while my husband is gone!

There are many other things to keep in mind, such as emergencies, recreational activities, communicating with in-laws, and insurance policies. It is also wise to discuss how both of you react when your plans change. Do you explode, hide your feelings, or understand the need to be flexible? We can plan all we want, but there is He who is ultimately in control of all of our plans. As Proverbs 19:21 reminds us, "Many are the plans in the mind of a man, but it is the purpose of the Lord that will stand." Isn't it comforting and encouraging to know that no matter how much our plans may change, it will be for our own good at the end?

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