Democritus once said, "It is not so much our friends' help that helps us, as the confidence of their help." I heard this quote several years ago and have been convinced of its truth. Last weekend, I went back to North Carolina to visit my husband. I decided to come a couple of hours earlier to see my friend in Raleigh. We keep in touch, but I had not seen her for over a year. When I called her to see if she could pick me up at the airport, I was sure she would change her plans and agree. I was sure that she would be excited to see me. And she was. David and I received the warmest welcome from her and her family. It was an amazing time!
We also visited my teacher of English and David's teacher of Russian, who happens to be the same person who introduced us to each other and gave me the happiness of my life (my husband.) She has been a wonderful and faithful friend for years, and I know she will always help whenever we need it. I have several great friends who I know I can always count on. This confidence of their help helps me tremendously.
If you have ever moved, you know that once you unpack your boxes, install Internet, and settle down, your soul starts longing for some human company. My husband is my best friend, but, being a soldier, he cannot be always with me (at least physically.) My Mom is also my best friend, but she lives in Hawaii. What do you do when all your friends are in different states or even in different countries?
I have noticed that the older I am, the harder it is to make friends. It is also difficult to make acquaintances. I like to be quiet and listen and rarely make the first step. I have always been a little jealous of people who can strike up a conversation with anyone and be likable right away. I need time to open up; if someone makes the first step, I will make the second.
As my David is preparing to leave, I am hoping to make new friends. I am actually planning on ACTIVELY pursuing it. Work, church, yoga class, and facebook groups are some of the places to start. Maybe I will even get a dog (not really a human company, but company nonetheless.) Any idea how I can find friends without being awkward?